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Guardian piece on human nature/'Status Anxiety'

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[fflo.livejournal.com]

I mean, lately I've been thinking I'm like a dog, a pack animal who's been cut off from the pack. I guess there IS some of that, too.

Funny how I try to comfort myself with psychological and anthropological justification for my current state.

[eve-l-incarnata.livejournal.com]

I understand. I've been trying to form a network of friends. It's been difficult. Much easier if one walks in lockstep with a particular culture, or subculture. I'm not sure how good of a pack animal I am. I'd liken myself to being a reluctant alpha female. I just want everyone to think for themselves, and come to consensus.

Funny how I try to comfort myself with psychological and anthropological justification for my current state.

I do the same thing, or have in the past.

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Eve_l, you make me wish you lived over this way---or I lived up there; I think we might get along rather well.

To some extent I'm sure we're just all pickier about friends as we get older and know what we think/like---or maybe more particularly what we don't like. But it has been pretty disappointing to me to find that even people in marginalized subcultures succumb so easily to group think, wanting to be certain and exclusive and dualistic us/them good/bad.

Reluctant alpha females are the best---not submitting by default, as the proper way to be a woman still seems to be to so many, yet remaining suspicious and respectful of the potential for power over others to be abused.

[eve-l-incarnata.livejournal.com]

It's highly possible we would get along. Don't let me breathe on you though. I'm sick.

But it has been pretty disappointing to me to find that even people in marginalized subcultures succumb so easily to group think, wanting to be certain and exclusive and dualistic us/them good/bad.

Indeed. I might resemble this comment at times, but there has been so little "we" that I can relate to, it rarely happens.

Reluctant alpha females are the best---not submitting by default, as the proper way to be a woman still seems to be to so many, yet remaining suspicious and respectful of the potential for power over others to be abused.

That is so well put.