okay, they've got me

[fflo]

As I was telling queerbychoice, I found it hard to maintain my usual "marriage-schmarriage" attitude when I heard about Del & Phyllis, who apparently didn't particularly care whether they were married but were just doing it for the young people, who'd asked 'em. I mean, how can you not be just a little touched by this?:



And now I'm hearing tales of the camping out at the courthouse and looking at pix at this site and, no, I still don't think relationship status ought to convey any benefits in taxes, insurance, inheritance, etc., but I am touched nonetheless. All those folx standing up for their love. Makes me wish I were in SF just to suck up some of the energy.

But maybe it's just my own heartsickness. Or maybe I'm just hormonal. Right?

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Geez, he calls you hostile.

Of course you make some good points. Know what's still a hang-up for me, though? When dykes refer to the "wife." And, yeah, it feels worse to me when it's a butch-y partner of a femme-y woman using the term. That servile property connotation is too ingrained in the word, at least to me.

On the other hand, I had to agree with a friend who said she thinks lesbians should use the high-commitment word "married" more in, and sooner into, our often-very-codependent living situations, just to admit what a comingling is going on. It annoys her when we bring the U-Haul on the second date and then say "Well it's not like we're married or anything."