i'm a great aunt again, but feel way funny about it

[fflo]

Here's the catch: I didn't know they were expecting! Now, granted, the baby is pretty premature (and doing fine, it seems)---his name's Sam, and he's the child of my step-nephew (my brother's wife's son) and his wife.

It's throwing me rather for a loop, I must say.

Obviously I haven't been in very close touch with my relative and step-relatives, but I have had e-mails back and forth with my brother off and on, and talked to him on the phone in, what, July? Early August? I'm not sure.

I feel very distant from all of them now.

Last year we were back from Holly's family's at Christmas and about to head out to see mine when she dropped the bombshell. We hadn't been out there the year before, either, I don't think. Or is that right. I'm fuzzy about it now. I know we didn't go to either family's the year we were in Georgia, mainly because H's family came down there for Thanksgiving.

I was just telling somebody the other day how I used to argue that men shouldn't complain about not knowing they have children, since to know if it's at least possible they just have to be in some modicum of contact with the women they've fucked, for mere months after the event. The idea is that they don't deserve to know. There's no denying it: I don't deserve to have known to expect a great-nephew.

I've not been good about keeping up with the great-nieces, after all.



Sigh.

Comments

[wednes.livejournal.com]

Gosh, it sounds like you're being really hard on yourself. Phones and Emails work both ways, you know.

Also, a few folks are coming by tomorrow night, so feel free to join us if you like...anytime after 9pm.

[groovesinorbit]

Agreeing with wednes on this. Your brother coulda told you anytime. Lighten up on yerself!

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Well, that's true of course. I guess I'm just a little shocked to realize I haven't been in closer touch with that whole contingent. I have a hunch Jay will be a great Dad. Hey, here's Sam:




with Dad


with folks

And here's a site about him, though you may have to try more than once to see pictures, as there seems to be a big audience suckin' up bandwidth:

http://www.geocities.com/thejayman68/

[groovesinorbit]

Well, you've had a lot of stuff on your mind. Use this as an opportunity to get back in touch--reaffirm the family you have.

That geocities site, when it's up, is way slow. What a tiny fella Sam is. Hope he does well.