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Knowing nothing about Sandra Dee's personal life, and wondering what [livejournal.com profile] catelin meant about her dying of a broken heart, I just went to read some obits. Her given name? Alexandra Zuck.

Seems a bloody shame she didn't just go by that. Agreed?

The heartbreak apparently involved childhood sexual abuse, a stage mother (is "stage" the expression for a parent who pushes a child into show biz? i'm suddenly drawing a blank), alcohol problems, depression, anorexia, and a veritable nervous breakdown after her mother died.


In other news, I am free from the all-day faint but persistent high-pitched screeching I thought at first was outside, then thought was my monitor, then realized was coming from my desk lamp. The lightbulb's death rattle. Or last throes, more accurately. The absence of that brain-piercing pitch is such a relief I want to dance. (Not as much as [livejournal.com profile] radicalteacher probably does, but she's dancier than the average bear, I'd wager.)


And now Sandra Dee has me thinking on things old ex- D and new ex- H have/had in common. Any guesses why? (No, it's not prompted by Dee/Zuck's "mother issues.")

What one's past loves have in common . . . interesting topic . . .

interesting topic:

Date: Feb. 22nd, 2005 06:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maffick.livejournal.com
let's see. My two big LOVES had in common:
1. no college education
2. chips on their shoulders because of 1.
3. very intelligent self-made sort of guys.
4. little ambition to work for a living
5. grumpy in the morning
6. like to hike and camp
7. passionate lovers
8. passionate in general
9. dope smokers
very interesting...

Re: interesting topic:

Date: Feb. 23rd, 2005 04:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fflo.livejournal.com
I'm not surprised you like 'em smart and passionate. Shame about #2. I should do this list sometime and add something beyond "liked Grease"!

Re: interesting topic:

Date: Feb. 23rd, 2005 06:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eve-l-incarnata.livejournal.com
Speaking as someone who is intelligent and doesn't have a college education, I have a chip because of the way people treat me... i.e. people with college educations who assume I am not intelligent or educated because I don't have a BS (or BA, but "BS" has funnier connotations) and treat me accordingly.

Actually, I have lots of BS, but it has nothing to do with a piece of paper.

Re: interesting topic:

Date: Feb. 23rd, 2005 06:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maffick.livejournal.com
What you say is completely understandable.
I never made either of my love's feel that way, and, in turn, they both respected the fact that I'm getting mine and didn't try to belittle my education because of their own hang ups.

Re: interesting topic:

Date: Feb. 23rd, 2005 07:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fflo.livejournal.com
har!

Anybody with real smarts knows smarts isn't about formal education completed or other knowledge stored. I hate jackasses who lord their degrees over people, or look down their noses at people without one.

Re: interesting topic:

Date: Feb. 23rd, 2005 06:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maffick.livejournal.com
I forgot to add 10. Little to no respect for authority :-)
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