two-movie Saturday; trip recap

[fflo]

Just got back from Ray. Two stars. Earlier saw Sideways, finally. Four stars. Good.

I promised a trip recap but then didn't get to it yesterday, and now here I've been home for more than 48 hours. But here's the jist, à la Harper's Index:

Days: 12

Miles: 1969

Tanks of gas: 6.5

Friends visited with: 12
Family members visited with, where "family" = relatives and relatives of relatives: 7
Family members visited with, where "family" = "'family'": 1 (wow, just 1? Or can I count the bisexuals?)

Friends missed, hoping to catch next time: 8
Family members missed: 2
"Family" missed: 6

Home-cooked meals enjoyed: 8
Restaurant meals enjoyed: 5
Drive-through meals consumed: 6
Seafood courses consumed on New Year's: 3

Speedy Motorcycles in my lap at Buzzards' Roost: 1

Cats visited: 11
Dogs visited: 2

Funny hat parades missed due to lateness: 1

Side trips to pick up shrink wrap machines: 1

$ lost to poker: 10
Major charitable contributions received of an amount that would cover that loss many times over: 1

Missed opportunities to be sheered: 1

Days spent entirely in bed: 1
Days spend entirely in bed having sex: 0


Ah, well. Maybe this year.


I need a wintery default icon.

Comments

[queerbychoice.livejournal.com]

You wouldn't automatically count bisexuals?

[groovesinorbit]

Yep, bisexuals count. Where was the funny hat parade? That sounds neat.

[fflo.livejournal.com]

The parade was in Rock Hall.

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Well, somehow my first instinct is that bisexuals living a het life aren't quite "family" in that sense. But I hesitate, as you see.

I like "queer" for the umbrella, including for gender queers and asexuals and folks who might not even seem to fit the usual LGBT2 kind of thing. And "queer"'s inclusiveness works against the identity labelling thing, and I like that.

I suppose "family" can easily be just as broad. And, hell, I consider most of the flat-out straight people I saw on this trip family to me; that broadening of the word is more personally relevant for me than the queer political one these days.

Maybe a poll of queers is in order to see how we think of that air quote-y use of "family." The common usage I am most familiar with is to refer to the potential queerness of strangers, as one might say "think they're on the train?" or some such old-fashioned subcultural code.

My old gf & I liked to use "sisters" for 2-female couples in that setting, which I rather liked cuz of the way one actually wondering whether two women were literal biological sisters might regard them for a moment and check out their features, comparing noses or something. During an interval that's about appropriate for that assessment one can get a look at fingernails, what exactly that pendant seems to be, and other more dyke-relevant info. Not that we felt the need for an excuse---but pretending to be doing another sort of postulating & pondering went along with the coded language and amused us.

There was a lot that was amusing about the early days of being a lezbo.

p.s.

[fflo.livejournal.com]

See my answer to Gayle in this entry for the bisexual part.

And don't forget I'm bisexual too! Theoretically, anyway. (It's all theoretical these days.)

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Yeah, we do! Think of the fun we could have when we aren't all freshly nasty heartbroken!

Hey, e-mail me yer snail mail address, okay? I wanna send you a copy of my year-end CD.

Re: p.s.

[groovesinorbit]

Gotcha. Hey, it's theoretical over here, too, but not forgotten.

Welcome Home!

[lovelikeyeast.livejournal.com]

That reminds me of the old days when I felt that "politically, I'm a lesbian, just not sexually." It's not the same thing at all. But since we're talking about identities based on theoreticals. ;-)

Glad you're back!
xoxo

Re: Welcome Home!

[groovesinorbit]

Which reminds me of when a workmate of mine was going on about how she was a lesbian because of this political thing and that political thing, and another normally demure co-worker chimed in and said, "I thought we were lesbians cuz we liked to fuck women." It's always the quiet ones.

Re: Welcome Home!

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Thanks! Me, too. Hope to see you and A soon. Any social time in the sched? I'm also looking at dates to try to book you for that ceremonial rite of passage of sorts we discussed. (Mum's the word here for now.)

I think D&K are going to see Gold Diggers of 1935 with me at the Mich tomorrow night a 7. With maybe an illicit visit to the alley first, just to enhance the experience.

Re: Welcome Home!

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Cf. http://www.livejournal.com/users/homovegetarian/2404.html

Re: Welcome Home!

[lovelikeyeast.livejournal.com]

Woo, count me in for rite of passage, definitely.

Tomorrow night sounds like fun, but I have a nolose phone conference @ 9:30. So, sounds a little tight.

My schedule's pretty flexible for T/W/Th, though. Dinner? rite o'passage? Whatnot? All sounds good. xoxo

Re: Welcome Home!

[groovesinorbit]

I love how no one (no one?) knew what a booty call was. Amazing. Amazing, too, the puritanical attitude. Feh! These are liberals?