Your Source for 'Ff'lo

Wow---that's some unhealthy-sounding stuff. What first occurs to me is that someone is asking you to provide more than the appropriate occasional friendly bolstering to that person's confidence. Then my cynical self doubts the veracity of this depth of self-loathing. Not that it's not possible---I'm sure it is. In this context, though, it's communication that seems to be demanding constant reinforcement from you in a way-outta-line way.

Of course I bristle at that whole objective beauty b.s., too. (Hell, I bristle at the very notion of objectivity, for that matter.) I try to steer clear of shallow looksist types like that, at least in my more intimate friendships---and, yeah, it's shallow and looksist to bemoan, obsessively, one's failure in the face of someone's (or some imagined) assessment of one's beauty.